1:24 AM
Just got up. Went to the bathroom
on the 2nd floor. Then I remembered
NeoBux.
On a semi-related note, I'm tired
of being a parasite. If nothing else,
the theft from me will simply go
to others who are in my position.
Well, not really. Lindsay and Diane (& Kim)
have been the ones who have
helped me the most, and that
was direct stuff, not indirect stuff
like taxes.
Meh. I just want to not be living
trying to find someone or other
to live off of. I think someone
stealing the money that I make
is better than me simply being
a leech.
So... I have a few options to me.
Finding a job here and getting
started on it like that, going
home and getting a job there,
or going to Mission and getting
a job. All of these presuming that
I get a job.
I will be perpetuating the system
that is creating the chaos that is
going on, but is how I'm living any
worse? Then again, I suppose I
could just do less official jobs...
I'm going to flesh out the
"home" possibility so I have
a better idea of it and so
I won't be caught in a bind
trying to figure it out.
"Sean--
I must say, you caught us off-gard, especially since just yesterday in our IM conversation you said it was going well. Did you break up with Lindsay today?
Answering your 3 questions.
1. What do I think about you coming back home? Mixed emotions. Part of me would be thrilled, but another part is apprehensive. I am also a little surprised you want to come home. Bottom line, probably "yes, with conditions. We would need to learn new ways to relate to each other, because the old ways didn't work. We would like to relate to you adult-to-adult.
2. What would be the conditions for you to live at home? Well, I think you must realize that we would not provide hotel accommodations with no expectations. We don't want to allow you to become a more dependent and weaker young man. We really don't want to "over-parent" you. How will you ever learn to take care of yourself if we do it for you? Additionally, because we all have to live together in a reasonable amount of harmony, there need to be some conditions and expectations.
Dad and I discussed this question and we would like you to tell us what you think would be reasonable conditions. After we see what you are thinking, we can better negotiate a mutually agreed upon written "contract"
Please address the following:
1. House rules (hours, curfews, other people over, smoking, drinking, drug use, use of common areas)
2. household responsibilities
3. Money to be contributed toward room and board (increased electricity, gas, grocery expenses)
4. Use of the family car (you would have to pay for the insurance to add you on--not sure what it is)
5. Timeline with milestones for independent living (basically a plan for leaving home)
Here is a sample (and very simple) "rental contract" for an example:
3. Mode of Transportation. Given that you probably do have several bins of belongings and maybe a bike, it would likely make sense for us (or just Dad) to come to Grand Forks to pick you up. "
1. a. Hours. In regard to? Sleeping habits, you mean?
b. Curfews. This depends on, I would think, whether I am
going to be taking part in family meals.
c. Other people over.
d. Smoking. Won't be.
e. Drinking. Might be.
f. Drug use. Is that not covered above?
g. Use of common areas.
2. household responsibilities. 3. Money.
4. Use of family car.
5. Milestone.
Ah fuck it.
"Boomerang Generation is one of several terms applied to the current generation of young adults in Western culture. They are so named for the frequency with which they choose to cohabitate with their parents after a brief period of living alone - thus boomeranging back to their place of origin. This cohabitation can take many forms, ranging from situations that mirror the high dependency of pre-adulthood to highly independent, separate-household arrangements.
The term can be used to indicate only those members of this age-set that actually do return home, not the whole generation. In as much as home-leaving practices differ by economic class, the term is most meaningfully applied to members of the middle class.
[edit]Introduction
The parental expectation of having an "empty nest", traditional in the United States and some other industrialized cultures, is increasingly giving way to the reality of a "cluttered nest" or "crowded nest". The latter term was popularized by Kathleen Shaputis's 2004 book The Crowded Nest Syndrome : Surviving the Return of Adult Children[1], which takes a critical view of the trend.
University of Western Ontario professor Roderic Beaujot discusses the phenomenon of delayed home-leaving at length. He cites Canadian census statistics showing that, in 1981, 27.5% of Canadians aged 20–29 lived with their parents; in 2001, the figure had grown to 41%.[2] In United States the proportion of adults ages 2 to 34 living with their parents has increased from 9% in 1960 to almost 17% in 2000.[3] However, US census data also suggests that the rate at which adult children have been living with parents has been steady since 1981.[4])
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The 18th through 21st birthdays of this generation coincide with the economic downturn starting with the collapse of the stock market bubble in 2000. This led to rising unemployment until 2004, the same time this generation was entering the workforce after high school or college graduation. Additionally, in the new economy, where globalisation-induced phenomena like outsourcing have eliminated many jobs[5][6][7][8], real wages have fallen over the last twenty years[9][10][11], and a college degree no longer ensures job stability, [12][13][14] this is the easiest, if not only, way for these young adults to maintain the middle class lifestyle they anticipated. Additionally, with the recent economic crisis hitting much of the world, many young people were either laid off or could no longer afford to live on their own. Moving back home allows them the option of unpaid internships and additional schooling without the burden of paying rent at market rates (or paying rent at all).
This generation differs from previous ones in that many members expect to remain with their parents for some years while maintaining their own social and professional lives. Because many of their friends also live at home, the stigma of living with parents is reduced[citation needed]; nonetheless, eventual home-leaving remains a priority for most in the Boomerang Generation.[citation needed]
[edit]Trend
The phenomenon of boomeranging / delayed home-leaving has generated considerable inquiry and debate, including academic studies at reputable universities, full-length books, articles in national newspapers, and major motion pictures (cf. "See Also" and "References" below for examples of each).
[edit]Support
The primary justification for this phenomenon, as articulated in Kimberly Palmer's 2007 U.S. News & World Report article "The New Parent Trap: More Boomers Help Adult Kids out Financially"[15], is economic. Where the young person and his/her parents can tolerate the arrangement, it provides tremendous financial relief to the young person. It may also provide non-negligible income to the parents, though in many cultures, the young person retains all or nearly all of this income for disposable income purchases.
Though inter-generational cohabitation is terra incognita for many in modern industrialized Western societies and therefore challenging, those who attempt it can benefit from the experience. The arrangement tends to force all involved to communicate and negotiate in ways they did not when the children were pre-adults. In the best case, this can lead to healthy adult relationships between parents and children.
This can benefit parents when they reach old age. In societies where it is common for children to live with their parents into adulthood, such as Asian, and Hispanic cultures, children more frequently take care of aging parents, rather than devolving the responsibility on a third party, such as a nursing home. Whether the Boomerang Generation will follow suit remains to be seen, as the older Baby Boom generation ages.
[edit]Opposition
Critics of the practice of boomeranging, such as Shaputis[1], worry about the negative effect this trend has on the financial and social independence of the children.
Young adults that are able to return home after an unsuccessful job hunt often become more passive in their search for employment if they continue to be financially supported by their parents. A lack of motivation can delay the start to a young adult's career and cause him/her to miss months or years of job earnings and experience.
Those that return home from the unrestrictive nature of college dorm life may also have difficulty readjusting to their parents' domestic expectations. Where living space is shared, gatherings with friends can be limited in frequency or scope. Dating is similarly constrained, and can also be impaired by the stigma of the young adult's perceived inability to function independently of his/her parents.
Many parents feel that, although expelling their children from the home may result in a strained relationship, such an expulsion effectively forces the young adults to survive on their own, spurring their maturity and encouraging them to begin families of their own."
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Quarter-life crisis
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The quarterlife crisis is a term applied to the period of life immediately following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the early twenties to the early thirties. The term is named by analogy with mid-life crisis.
The first book to identify this phenomenon was Quarterlife Crisis, the Unique Challenges of Life in your Twenties (Tarcher, 2001), coauthored by Abby Wilner and Alexandra Robbins, while the first to offer practical solutions - based on peer research - was Damian Barr's Get It Together: A Guide to Surviving Your Quarterlife Crisis (Hodder, 2004&2005). An early version of the phenomenon was posited by Erik H. Erikson although the current manifestation, as Wilner, Robbins and Barr argue, is different.
[edit]Emotional aspects
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Characteristics of quarter-life crisis may include[citation needed]:
- Realizing the pursuits of ones peers are useless
- Confronting their own mortality
- Watching time slowly take its toll on their parents, only to realize they are next
- insecurity regarding the fact that their actions are meaningless
- insecurity concerning ability to love themselves, let alone another person
- insecurity regarding present accomplishments
- re-evaluation of close interpersonal relationships
- lack of friendships or romantic relationships, sexual frustration, and involuntary celibacy
- disappointment with one's job
- nostalgia for university, college, high school or elementary school life
- tendency to hold stronger opinions
- boredom with social interactions
- loss of closeness to high school and college friends
- financially-rooted stress (overwhelming college loans, unanticipatedly high cost of living, etc.)
- loneliness, depression and suicide
- desire to have children
- a sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than you
- frustration with social ills
These unsettling emotions and insecurities are not uncommon at this age, nor at any age in adult life. In the context of the quarter-life crisis, however, they occur shortly after a young person – usually an educated professional, in this context – enters the "real world".[1] After entering adult life and coming to terms with its responsibilities, some individuals find themselves experiencing career stagnation or extreme insecurity. The individual often realizes the real world is tougher, more competitive and less forgiving than they imagined. Furthermore, the qualifications they have spent so much time and money earning are not likely to prepare them for this disillusionment.
A related problem is simply that many college graduates do not achieve a desirable standard of living after graduation. They often end up living in low-income apartments with roommates instead of having an income high enough to support themselves. Substandard living conditions, combined with menial or repetitive work at their jobs create a great amount of frustration, anxiety and anger. Nobody wants to admit to feeling like a 'loser'; this secrecy may intensify the problem.
As the emotional ups-and-downs of adolescence and college life subside, many affected by quarter-life crisis experience a "graying" of emotion. While emotional interactions may be intense in a high school or college environment – where everyone is roughly the same age and hormonesare highly active – these interactions become subtler and more private in adult life[citation needed].
Furthermore, a factor contributing to quarter-life crisis may be the difficulty in adapting to a workplace environment. In college, professors' expectations are clearly given and students receive frequent feedback on their performance in their courses. One progresses from year to year in the education system. In contrast, within a workplace environment, one may be, for some time, completely unaware of a boss's displeasure with one's performance, or of one's colleagues' dislike of one's personality. One does not automatically make progress. Office politics require interpersonal skills that are largely unnecessary for success in an educational setting.
[edit]Financial and professional aspects
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A primary cause of the stress associated with the "quarter-life crisis" is financial in nature; most professions have become highly competitive in recent years. Positions of relative security – such as tenuredpositions at universities and "partner" status at law firms – have dwindled in number. This, combined with excessive downsizing, means that many people will never experience occupational security in their lives, and this is doubly unlikely in young adulthood. Generation X was the first generation to meet this uncertain "New Economy" en masse. There is also the problem of crippling student loans.[citation needed]
The era when a professional career meant a life of occupational security – thus allowing an individual to proceed to establish an "inner life" – seems to be coming to an end. Under circumstances virtually effectuating stress disorders, Financial professionals are often expected to spend at least 80 hours per week in the office, and people in the legal, medical, educational, and managerial professions may average more than 60.[2][3] In most cases, these long hours are de facto involuntary, reflecting economic and social insecurity. While these ills plague adults at all ages, their worst victims are ambitious, unestablished young adults.[citation needed]
College graduates are physically and mentally capable of performing many jobs, but lack the "1-2 years of experience" required to get hired and consequently end up doing simple tedious boring jobs for which they are significantly overqualified. In college, some students spend all their time working hard to earn good grades and graduate on time, but do not gain any "real world" experience with which to secure a job.[citation needed]
This catch-22 is tough for college students: one must have a degree to get hired, but cannot get hired without 1–2 years of practical experience. This cycle is infuriating for recent graduates. The few graduates that do land decent jobs after graduation usually have to work 15–20 hours per week at a job during college and, because of this, they may end up missing social events that university life has to offer without implementing adequate time management. These students frequently desire romantic relationships but simply do not have the time in college to gain or sustain them. Thus, they may end up with a job after college but long for a romantic partner and feel as unfulfilled as the graduates who have a partner and no job.[citation needed]
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The Cheating Culture
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The Cheating Culture: Why More Americans Are Doing Wrong to Get Ahead is a nonfiction book, authored by David Callahan and published by Harcourt in 2004.
The main thesis of the book is that the current state of American society, characterized by rampant inequality and a winner-take-all philosophy, produces the cheating that has been observed in business, law, academia, journalism, entertainment and medicine.
Cheating, of both illegal and legal forms, is pervasive in an American society where incentive-driven structures (e.g. stock options, production-based pay, fast-track career options) have gone haywire: Instead of promoting productivity and "fair play", they reward deception and chicanery. Callahan provides multiple examples of this phenomenon in recent American history:
- In the 1990s, when Sears instituted a production quota for its auto repair staff, mechanics began performing unnecessary and costly maintenance.
- Overbilling, often to the extent of criminality, is highly common within the legal profession. Pressed to bill as much time as possible, ambitious young lawyers often overcharge clients.
- In the medical profession, physicians feel forced to exaggerate symptoms of managed-care patients, since otherwise their insurers would deny coverage.
Not restricted to professions, cheating now appears in all facets of American life. According to Callahan, cheating breeds upon a dynamic between a winner class, an upper-class so influential they effectively are exempt from most rules and standards, and an anxious class, often compelled to cheat during a period of downward social mobility, downsizing, and within a cultural climate that values money and power above personal integrity.
Callahan shows, however, that large-scale cheating is most prevalent among the "Winner" upper class. Despite their high salaries and opulent lifestyles, they live in constant comparison with those who have more than them, and therefore exhibit lives characterized by high spending, severe anxiety, and countless opportunities and temptations to cheat.
The author, however, also notes that blame for the cheating phenomenon does not lie upon a single class of people. Rather, it represents the individualistic ambitions of the amorphously-defined "Me" generation, mixed dangerously with laissez-faire principles espoused by the 1980sneoliberals, and implemented, to America's detriment, during the "get-rich-quick" era of the 1980s and '90s.
While speaking about the book in Denver, Colorado, Callahan made the following statements about American society:
- The level of the public's trust is low to the point of being "poisonous". Throughout his book, he states that cynical attitudes and lack of trust in others produce cheating. For example, one expecting to be "screwed" by others is more likely to cheat others to compensate.
- Members of higher socio-economic groups, such as the wealthy bankers who profit from the credit card industry, frequently victimize members of lower socio-economic groups.
- The 1980s and '90s were characterized by an emphasis on self-interest, maintaining the individualism and anticonformism of the 1960s but shedding the community-oriented ideals of social responsibility and personal integrity.
- American society has a "schizophrenic personality": it tends to cyclically alternate between a spirit of self-interest, and an attitude ofcommunal interest. The last period of such vulgar self-interest, according to Callahan, was the American 1920s.
"
When I dream, I dream within
a dream. Either society has
gone crazy, or I have.
Either way, I want to live
to see the drama play out,
to see the end of the story.
Perhaps it won't end. I can
watch for as long as possible,
though.
I have found a way to deal
with reality. It is a dream.
When I dream, I dream within
a dream.
Shall I follow Dagne, or John
Galt? I have no values left
to me in the world, and I have
no hidden paradise. But I do
have my life. How can I vote
with it? Shall I dream it away?
Ah, and while dreaming, if I
do dream, I shall be dreaming
within a dream.
How can I keep watching the
movie? I can't torrent this
stream anymore. I need to
pay for it. Does that mean
that when I don't think the
cost is worth it, I suicide?
What will that dream be
like? Do people dream when
they die? I don't recall dreaming
when I didn't exist.
It was more of a... a nothingness.
Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray the taxpayers their soul
they keep, and if I die before
I wake, a loss of pain I shall
partake. Now dream, dream
larger one, and if in that
dream you wake up and find
yourself dreaming again,
remember:
if you pinch yourself and it
hurts, you might still be asleep.
"
Powerlessness, not power corrupts: life after the GFC
"
"Why does this happen? Because it is not power that corrupts. It is powerlessness! People who can’t create but can destroy will seek to destroy wherever they can."
Language corruption. Anarchy is chaos. Without God we will perish.
"And here is where the opportunity lies.
There will be millions to be made by small businesses which can help innovators in big businesses do what the bureaucracy stops them from doing.
You see some very bright people work in big business and they have some great ideas. The issue is if they were to try and run it internally themselves the red tape would kill them before they got it off the ground."
Niiiice.
"It is plain to see that life after the GFC will be even more difficult for these intrapreneurs because they will have head-count freezes and even more paranoid legal departments (when things go ‘south’ we all want to blame and likely sue someone else for our woes) than they had before."
Wrong. And I don't mean you're
entirely wrong.
"we all want" is what I contest.
Who is 'we'? Does that include
everyone on the planet? Eh?
"1 - Start by figuring out what you are really in the business of, not what you sell. In other what has building your business made you world-class at? Building sales teams, analysing risk, customer service? Or to use my friend example outbound phone sales, NOT social club memberships.
2 - Who at the big end of town sucks at what you rock at? Even the other big businesses are seeing opportunity here with examples like Qantas frequent flyer now partnering with the like of Woolworths to drive loyalty.
3 - Work out how to get in front of the person who is most frustrated internally by this challenge, and offer them your solution.
4 - REPEAT!"
Huh."The researchers said many young Australians were humanists, rejecting belief in a god and replacing that with a belief in human experience, human reason and scientific explanations.
Robert Forsyth, Anglican Bishop of South Sydney, said the results were expected. "This is the first generation to have nothing to do with Sunday school," he said."
The doomsday in relation to religion and cults could be a psychological
projectile of the rational sight of
seeing doom as a result of the
ideology. Additionally, it could
function primarily as a punishment
method, and then by means of
self-prediction, because a sort of
"installed" memory, meaning that
we're all programmed to self-destruct
if we have a belief in God or the such.
""This is the first generation who probably know nothing about Christ, except those who go to Christian schools.
"It is sad, but in my view it is entirely what we expected to happen.""
lol Words to be expected from the perhaps-last religious generation. As you would expect,
this is a good-signs trajectory to atheists.
"Researchers conducted the random survey with 1619 people. Of those, 1272 were aged 13 to 24 and the rest were aged 25 to 59.
University of NSW Emeritus Professor of sociology and anthropology Clive Kessler said the results reflected the secular and sceptical nature of Australian society.
A QUESTION OF SPIRIT
■48 per cent of Generation Y believe in a god.
■20 per cent do not believe in a god.
■32 per cent are unsure.
■19 per cent of Generation Y are actively involved in a church.
■ 17 per cent have an eclectic spirituality, believing in two or more "New Age", esoteric or eastern beliefs, including reincarnation, psychics and astrology.
■31 per cent can be classified as humanists, rejecting the idea of a god, although a few believe in a "higher being".
SOURCE: THE SPIRITUALITY OF GENERATION Y"
Hm.
"Generation Y, also known as the Millennial Generation or Generation Next or Net Generation,[1][2][3] is a term used to describe the demographic cohort following Generation X. Its members are often referred to as Millennials[4] or Echo Boomers[5]. As there are no precise dates for when the Millennial generation starts and ends, most commentators use birth dates ranging somewhere from the late 1970s to the late 1990s. [6][7][8][9][10][11][12][13][14][15][16][17][18][19][20][21][22][23][24] This generation generally represents an increase in births from the 1960s and 70s, not because of a significant increase in birthrates, but because the large cohort of baby boomers began to have children. The 20th century trend toward smaller families in the West continued,[25][26] however, so the relative impact of the "baby boom echo" was generally less pronounced than the original boom."
Soon enough, we'll all be watching TV.
But we'll be what we're watching.
... Well, that's already happening...
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